A real Big Boss around us

Big Boss III is not as exciting as the previous two ones were. Yet all these editions give a glimpse into the negative aspects of human psyche. Charles Darwin "Survival of the fittest" law simply fits best into the Big Boss house. There is no permanent friend, no permanent enemy but one permanent target... to escape from the week's nomination and get as much popularity votes as possible.

Similarly, we are also living a Bigg Boss life in our real world. It exists in the professional world and is felt by those who work in the multi nationals. I too belong to the same genre of people who earn bread and butter by working in a corporate world and feel the same bitchiness and friendliness exist around me that we so often see in Big Boss.

It has many similarities to the Big Boss House. Like Big Boss, there is no permanent friend in the corporate world. The person whom you think as your friend can be the one who is nominating you on your back. He can be the one who is leaking your dirty secrets to the people who might be targetting you. And why your friend is doing it... because he wants to move up in the ladder by putting you down.

Another similarity is the bitchiness. It is falsely assumed that people is corporate world work day and night. In fact why it takes day and night to work because people spend more time bitching about others than doing their work. Like Big Boss House where we see small groups coming up and criticizing others, we see small groups within the team that have been bitching about the common threats like a hard working person whom everyone see it as a threat to their rise.

Henceforth if someone criticizes Big Boss House serial, then I think it is the time for him to introspect and see how many Big Boss houses are opened around him and in how many he has been actively participating. The serial is nothing but is a mirror for the psyche that is prevelant in today's society. That's why we like to see it and evaluate.

Hence, I would suggest that it is the time for us to introspect and evaluate on how we can stop such Big Boss houses around us to thrive. The best remedy is not to participate in them. Rather than bitching about others, we must learn to overcome our own short comings. Keep doing the good work and have a faith in almighty. Even if he doesn't give you the materialistic happiness, it would surely deliver you the much needed salvation and power of faith, which would make you a happy person.

Sadly, we don't even think that at what cost the happiness and joy comes. It costs nothing but a smile from the heart. And how it comes... more often by helping others. Just imagine the happiness that one might get when he happens to help a blind person in crossing the road. Or probably helping an old aunty and uncle in getting something from the markets which he / she are not able to due to their old age. It costs nothing, but will grow happiness in each others' heart and soon the world around you will be a happy place. By livng this way, you will help Big Boss in fulfilling its objective. Not the Big Boss that comes on TV but The Big Boss that governs the whole world, the almighty.

I hope I am able to deliver my views on Big Boss in our life. If you have something, do write in your comments.
Ameen!!!!

No reason to get married

It’s my marriageable age according to my friends and family, but I haven’t found a reason to get married. Just because I have a decent pay packet, a nice family, doesn’t motivate me to go and find a life partner for myself.

One of the reasons behind it is the adjustment (which few call sacrifices) that one has to go to float the marriage. If one thinks honestly, how much sacrifice we make to live with our parents, or to make friends. The answer is absolutely nothing!!!! We live with our parents because they really love us and we love them too. Similarly, we love our friends, because they shower us the love and help us when we need them.

But when it comes to marriage now a days, I have seen couples making too many sacrifices to live with each other. The love is somewhere lost or was never there from the beginning. What was present from the beginning is some hope, some financial status, some social status which couples strive to maintain till the very end.

Hence what I think is to find friends, make everyone happy around you and hope that god provides you the one who is more of a friend than a partner. And if you don’t get one, live alone and be thankful to god that he is not tying to soe superficial relationships that create more emptiness in your heart and in your life.

Sorry guys!!! If I have shaken you up with my negative thoughts on the marriage but the fact is that I don’t want end up as a family cow who is milked by every person and finally be thrown to the butcher when has nothing to offer.

Good Night….

Find your path and be successful

One of the finest poems I have read till now is "Madhushala". It is written by Harivansh Rai Bachhan and sung by Manna Dey.

One of its stanza states:
"Madiralaya Jaane ko chalta hai peene waala,
Kis Path se jaaon asmanjas mein hai bhola bhala,
Alag alag path batalaate sab,
Par main yeh batlata hun,
Rah pakad tu ek chala chalPaa Jaayega Madhushala..."

Those who don't understand Hindi much, the poem talks about a person who wants to go to bar to have drink, but doesn't know the way to the bar.

The poet narrates that the person meets many people on the way to the bar and everyone tells him to follow a different path to find it. He is confused and doesn't know whom to believe. The poet comes to its rescue and tells him that if he wants to find the bar, he should trust any one person and follows his direction. He will surely find the bar in the end.

In other words, life is too the same. There are so many sects, so many religions, so many beliefs that one gets confused which one to follow to make ones life successful. But what he doesn't realize that each one of these beliefs gives the common messages to the followers:

1) Love everyone
2) Help Others
3) Spread Happiness
4) Pray to almighty
5) God is one
6) Do not cheat or betray
7) Meditate

Every path is good, provided it helps your grow awareness and become a better person than before. Henceforth, one should not live in the state of confusion for too long. In the end, one needs to follow certain belief and adopt it teachings in one's life to make it successful.

"Find your path and be successful in your life."

Marathi or Non-Marathi – an example of Divided Mentality

The world today is a divided place. Somewhere, it is divided on the basis of color, somewhere on the basis of nationalities, somewhere on the basis of religion and caste, and now a new division… on the basis of state. Raj Thackeray led campaign to divide Marathi and Non-Marathi has brought on shore, a century long division, which lived peacefully beneath our mentality.

In North India, especially in Delhi and Punjab, we have seen many laborers coming from rural areas of eastern UP and Bihar. Most of these people are uneducated and hence, work largely as laborers in factories and offices. Whenever they make any mistake, we shout loudly and say “Abe o Bihari!!! Dekh ke nahi kaam karta kya?”

Similarly, when we encounter anyone from North-East, we call them as “Nepali”, or “Gorkha” and girls as “Chinkis”. The girls from North-east face the maximum brunt of eve-teasing, since they lead an open life, wear modern dresses and are more dominant than their male counterparts. Hence, disparity of region is not a new one. It was existent within us since long time. Raj Thackeray only exploited it to solve his political purpose.

However, this can change, if we all decide to change us. People who have come to Delhi or Mumbai are due to the necessity, since they don’t have many options in their native villages and towns to earn and live a decent life. We must respect their problem and try to behave patiently with them. How bad we feel when our boss scolds us in Office for not doing something right. We expect him to be patient and tell us politely about the mistake we have made. Similarly, we must guide them and teach them when they go wrong.

Also, a wrong person doesn’t represent a religion, caste or area. He is wrong because of his own deeds. Blaming the entire community, religion or region is the incorrect parameter to look at.

Another thing that we must try to eradicate from our society is the “division on the basis of economic class”. Today, the peon in my office, who is probably of my father’s age, greets me with “Hello Sir”, “Bye Sir”, or “Good Night Sir”. Why??? It is because I earn more and stand high in the stature to him. However, my education teaches me to treat him with respect. But one day, when I am in a bad mood, chances are probable that I may scold him for a small mistake, unfortunately, he may do.

We must try to treat every person, not on the basis of his economic class. Rather, we must give him the respect that he truly deserves for his age, behavior and work.

Well, these things have been growing within me, from the day I read about Raj Thackrey exploits. More than him, we are ourselves to blame. It is because, the day we change our behavior towards others, politicians like him will not able to exploit us.

Please feel free to share your views by writing a comment below or by emailing at mayank.jhanji@gmail.com

Is it so easy to earn money from the Stock Market?

While growing up in the family of “Failed but Ever-optimistic Stock Traders”, I often heard my father and grandfather repeating one statement – “Out of 10 people, who invest in the stock market, only one earns the profit and that one person takes away the entire investments of other 9 people.”

But I often wonder that despite stock market being such a tough preposition, people flocked to it with an impression that they will come out with rich dividends every time. Arguably, it is the mirage of easy and quick money that attract people towards this mode of investment, despite falling miserably many a times in the past.

Well, I am not pessimistic abut stock markets or favor what my father or grandfather say, but just want to say that “Investing money in stock market is as major decision as it with investing your money in any other business. So, one must have a realistic plan in its mind on how to earn money from the stock market before entering into it”.

Let’s start with an example. One fine day two investors – Anil Bhai and Mukesh Bhai decided to invest 1 lakh Rs in the stock market.

Anil Bhai, like most of the investors, is excited and raring to invest his money in stock market, with a hope to get good returns in quick time. He observed that “Doolittle Technologies” has gained almost 40% in last 5 days. The stock is currently at Rs 21.

He feels tempted to enter this stock at current levels since it’s a cheap stock and belongs to the booming IT sector. He also watched analysts on TV predicting Doolittle to reach Rs. 50 in next 1 month because the company is hoping to get the banking project from Europe’s largest bank. He feels satisfied and purchases 2000 shares of Doolittle at Rs. 25.

Ahh!! All set to watch this stock going double in next 1 month. Sadly though, the news about proposed investment came out false and stock after touching 30 went down to Rs. 15. In other words, back to the initial levels.

Bechaare! Anil Bhai is now trapped in Doolittle Technologies, and like any other investor, has no other option than to wait for a good day when it will touch 21 and he will be able to come out of this failed investment.

Well, if we analyze his investment closely, here are few points that come out:

1) No underlying criteria - Anil Bhai investment was based on two criteria – it is a cheap stock and it belongs to IT sector. Both these criteria had no underlying value since a cheap stock doesn’t guarantee profits and not every IT company gives returns like Infosys or TCS.

2) Purely Speculative - Anil Bhai investment was pure on speculation basis since the “Doolittle Technologies was hoping to get the banking project” and did not confirm that it actually “got the project”.

3) No Logic, Only Emotions - Anil Bhai did not look at company’s financial performance in the past and in the end, the decision was purely an emotional one rather than the logical one.

4) No Risk Projection - And the most important is that he never had any risk projection. In other words, he never took an alternative view that what will be his stance, in case, the investment start generating losses. Ideally, he should have taken the approach of “Stop Loss” that ensures his position got squared-off if it fall to the assigned level. Thus, by using this approach, he could have limited his loss and able to come out of this clutch.

Now, let’s look at Mukesh Bhai. He is also an eager investor, though he has made some wrong investments in the past like Anil Bhai. But the only difference is that he is willing to learn from its past mistakes and is determined that he won’t repeat them again.

This time, instead of floating with the market sentiments, he decides to analyze few things before putting his hard-earned money in any stock. He is not looking at exponential gains, rather looking to get somewhat better than what he can get from fixed returns. So, instead of looking at cheap stocks or current favorite sector, he analyzed the stock on the basis of some logical parameters:

1) Financial Performance – Mukesh Bhai observed that companies with good financial platform are more likely to go up since they are more capable to override any inevitable situation and also in a better position to grow in future.

2) Future Plans – Mukesh Bhai is willing to invest his money in those companies that are likely to grow in future. In other words, companies that contain a realistic vision to become leader in their segment or if they are leaders, willing to sustain that position.

3) Sectorial View – Like Anil Bhai, Mukesh Bhai also believes in taking a call on the sector to which the company belongs to. But his opinion is a bit different. Instead of using Sector as the benchmark criteria, Mukesh Bhai considers sectorial analysis to take a deeper look at the company future prospects. In other words, sector does play an important role but cannot guarantee company’s profit by any means.

4) Past Returns – Sometimes, a good company doesn’t give good returns to investors in the stock market. It could be due to reluctant management, which doesn’t believe in sharing profits with investors or any other reason. Therefore, Mukesh Bhai decided to look at the past returns that the particular stock has given to its investors.

5) Realistic Expectations – Well, nobody will mind if his /her investments generate huge profits. But in this unpredictable stock market, Mukesh Bhai wants to be realistic with his expectation. Once deciding the stock that he wants to purchase, he also pens down the price range (on the upside) at which he will come out of the investment. Thus, by taking this approach, he is able to withhold his emotions and let logic rules over unrealistic expectations.

6) Risk Projection – Mukesh Bhai is aware about the deep losses that he suffered in the past. Thus, to limit the losses in case of any trend reversal, Mukesh Bhai has also pen down the Stop Loss Price. If the market price of his stock goes down the Stop Loss Price, he will square-off the position and come out with limited losses. Indiabulls Online Trading System enables you to place a Stop Loss order in the Capital as well as F&O Market.

Now, if I ask you who has better prospects to earn from the stock market – Anil Bhai or Mukesh Bhai, you will most probably say ‘Mukesh Bhai’ because he applied logics rather than emotions while investing money in stock market.

Well, I hope you do not make mistakes as my father, grandfather or Anil Bhai did by using their emotions rather than the logic. Be aware and realistic from your investment because it is no Magic but a pure Logic that can fetch you great returns!!!

Wish you all a very Happy Investing!!